If other day I’ve written summary of the ‘hard-skill’ presentation, this time i’ll post a summary about my ‘softskill’ presentation. It was a nice Sunday when an idea suddenly crossed to my mind about picking this topic for my softskill discussion. Having Sense of Humour. I think it’s one of the communication skill. So I wa googling for an article and found this . And just a day before the discussion I was asking my friend if there any other reference about this topic. (Even I got the scientific paper about this. Thanks!). Then I wrote down my materials. And this is our discussion session about Sense of Humour.
Firstly, we all agreed that instead of Inbred skills, Sense of Humour is a skill that can be learnt. It’s part of self development and learning. It also can be shaped by our environment, culture, and etc. The article said that having a good sense of humour is like friendliness, it’s the great oilers of the wheel of social interactions
Then I asked everyone’s opinion about the benefits of having sense of humour. Pak Waw said it can be easier for us to get friends. Nova said it can help us getting attention from people around us. Grand said it can be a good ice breaker. Tommy said it can be good for ‘flirting’ (what’s flirting, i don’t even know this term ). Pak Sanj said it can help us to decompress stress, and Sara said it can reduce depression (then she explain that depression is something difference with stress. Both can occured to you at once). And then from the article said that humour can make criticism more palatable. It also one of the strongest bases for lasting friendship. And since humour is related to laugh, some research show that laughter has been shown to benefit our circulation, lungs, and muscle.
But humour will be good in an exact portion. Not too much, neither too little. Aristotle describe the people who push jokes too far as Buffoons (or Crude, Coarse). They often offend others. And the people who has lack of sense of humour are described as Boorish. They’re oversensitive to others, avoid giving offend to others.
Humour is also about the context. We should aware the situation because not all jokes are the same. For example jokes A might be fine in workplace but not in the dining room, vice versa. There’re four points we should aware of:
Object : the target or object of our jokes (even if the object are not always human). Will they be offended with our jokes?
Strength : strength of feeling will this jokes arouse. Is it good?
People : the audience. Will there be any of them who’ll getting offend with our jokes?
Occassion : Is it really the time & place to give a joke?
From those term we could say that good sense of humour is an adaptive ones. And the term that crossed to my mind was “Adaptive tuning sense of humour” .
And the last but not least, don’t be hesitate to apologize if your jokes cause offense to others. Your apology migh not be immediatly accepted, but at least it will be remembered or excused.
I think that’s all. Thanks.
*Sorry for my English.
*bonus : a chessy (Indonesan caled garing) jokes from Sara (or she called it “my grandpa jokes”)*
A duck walks into a bar and asks, “Got any grapes?”
The bartender, confused, tells the duck no. The duck thanks him and leaves.
The next day, the duck returns and asks, “Got any grapes?”
Again, the bartender tells him, “No — the bar does not serve grapes, has never served grapes and, furthermore, will never serve grapes.” The duck thanks him and leaves.
The next day, the duck returns, but before he can say anything, the bartender yells, “Listen, duck! This is a bar! We do not serve grapes! If you ask for grapes again, I will nail your stupid duck beak to the bar!”
The duck is silent for a moment, and then asks, “Got any nails?”
Confused, the bartender says no.
“Good!” says the duck. “Got any grapes?”